Hi! losing your resilience
Last week I asked you about the experience of losing your resilience. So many people responded, well aware that this happens repeatedly and with some great observations about the earliest warning signs that they are not as ready to respond well as they’d like to be. We dove into the truth that resilience is an unpredictable stock.
There’s a lot to learn from that, most importantly that losing your resilience is not a failure.
Actually, all those experiences of losing your resilience have proven something else as well:
Resilience replenishes.
Think about your own experiences. Even when your resilience is at its lowest, even if you have no idea what to do next or how to be better, it comes back. Whether it’s falling asleep or being around someone you’re connected to or just the passage of time, our brains are truly tireless about survival. So we find ways – new ideas, renewed energy to persevere, thoughts we haven’t thought before – to tackle our lives. When you look back now at times when you were totally tapped out, do you see that you didn’t stay that way?
No matter how low your resilience drops or what you face without the first idea what to do, resilience does return.
There are lots of things we can do to rebuild resilience (and I certainly do go on and on about those things, don’t I?) but when you don’t know what to do or you’ve run out of energy to try, take heart. Your resilience will be back.
Have you ever noticed your resilience returning even without your particular effort?
All my best,
Dr. G
