In a recent interview, I was asked “one last question” that I wished had been the beginning of the conversation.
“When you do enough work on yourself, don’t you reach a higher plane where you’re detached and don’t need resilience anymore?”
I had So Many Things to say about that!
But we were at the end of the interview so I didn’t get to say anything but one answer. I’ll share that in a minute. For all of you who are willing to ponder resilience with me on the regular, here are the three important things that popped up immediately for me when the host asked.
- Because resilience is our skillset for navigating change – and there is always change – we always need resilience.
- What exactly is a “higher plane” and do I want to be there? Seriously, I have so many goals and leaving this plane of existence with all my people and all the real experiences and emotions exist – being “detached” isn’t a goal that I have.
- What’s the real question behind this question?
That last one – what’s the question behind the question – became more clear to me as she spoke when I paused. She didn’t want to have to be resilient because being resilient is hard and painful and we all just want to move past it.
So my answer was this (and I want to know what you think) “We never stop needing resilience. And change is often hard – but the more resilient we learn how to be the less afraid we are of uncertainty and future change. We become more confident in our ability to handle whatever happens – and that confidence and competence actually makes us happier.”
Does that make sense to you? Do you agree? Comment and tell me. And also, if you’re on a higher plane I would really like to hear about it!
All my best,
Dr. G
