Last week I shared with you the first episode of my new Today Show parenting web series. In case you missed it, here it is.
Each episode I’ll be addressing a big issue, and how to tackle the tough topics we all have been struggling with (and in some cases avoiding) talking about with our kids.
This week’s episode is something that is on the mind of many parents, and especially those who have boys. It seems there is no end to the stories about sexual misconduct. How can we protect our kids (girls and boys) from a situation like this? How do we raise adults who won’t behave like this, and who will know how to speak out against it when someone else does?
The answer – talk with them about consent. In this episode, the awesome Amanda Rodriguez, Creator of Dude Mom, and I talk about consent. She is a mom of three boys with one going off to college soon and wants to have this important conversation now.
This one isn’t to be missed. I encourage you to watch with your teenagers as well.We discuss the “red cards” that mean consent can’t be given. We also have to talk clearly with our kids about when consent is and isn’t given. Ask your son, Do you know what isn’t consent?”
- a look
- a nod
- a giggle or laugh
- “I guess”
- “if you want”
Not saying “no” isn’t consent.

Ask your teen, “What would someone have to say to convince you they give consent?
- be awake
- be sober, and not high
- make eye contact
- be enthusiastic
- say “Yes”
It takes ALL of those to give consent.
Thanks so much to all of you for watching. Will you share this? All of our teens need to talk about this with the adults in their lives.In case you need extra help tackling awkward or challenging conversations with your kids, I also have resources to guide you through talking about tough topics with your kids, like my new ecourse.